Some things we’d like you to know before you begin.

If you are divorced, seeking custody, abused, an abuser, someone needing help or know someone who needs help, remember that we are not online counselors. All the information we know is on the web site, especially in our Crisis, Links and Resource sections. If our web site is not helpful in your case, please contact a crisis center, mental health center or therapist in your local community. Many of these resources should be in your local phone book.

If you are working on a school or university project, we support your learning, but won’t be able to email you any information beyond what’s on these pages. Thanks for understanding our limitations.

Visitors have called us “Easy on the eyes”, “Like reading a good book”. At Menstuff®, we keep our graphics to the minimum so you can load pages faster, get to information quicker and be saved from the constant scrolling offers and flashing banners. We figure people come here for information, not to sign up for a credit card or refinance their home. (The exception happens if you use one of the search engines where we have no control.)

August 1, 2015 started our 20th year on the internet. We have never accepted compensation to place any ad on the And, while we get millions of hits every month, I have turned down some lucrative offers from advertisers in order to keep this web site an information based web site.

After that explanation, I need to add that would not exist today if not for those of you who have made your book purchases through us. Thank you.

Please send comments on our pages so we can better carry out our mission of ending men’s isolation. Whenever you’re ready to go to the homepage, click on Homepage.

Overview of the Site is the starting point for information for and about men on the web. Menstuff is an educational web site which serves a diverse men’s community (men’s rights, mythopoetic, pro-feminist, recovery, re-evaluation counseling, and spiritual). Menstuff has 65 columnist reporting on a weekly or monthly basis. Menstuff lists thousands of on-site men’s book reviews & covers, men’s resources and hyperlinks and hundreds of events, periodicals and groups. It provides information on hundreds of men’s issues regarding positive change in male roles and relationships (including aging, circumcision, divorce, fathers, health, kidstuff, mid-life, multicultural, prostate cancer, relationship, sexuality, spirituality, testicular cancer, violence, work, and much more.) We always provide the original source of our mateial. However, as weeks, months or years go by, many of those sources end. If it wasn’t for, much of that information would be lost forever. Therefore, if you find a broken link, realize that this is probably what happened. We leave the broken link there so you know the original source of the information.

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Linking to Us

If you have or know of a web site one men’s issues, please let us know. One of the important ways we can help each other and those out there who are in need of our information, is to provide hyperlinks to other related sites. If you would like to add us to your site, please go to Link to Us. It’s easy and will help us in our mission to end men’s isolation.

Scroll Down Our Side Bar

The first thing we suggest is to scroll down our left side bar to see all of the pages and options available. We designed it this way so that if you print out some of our information, you’ll get full pages of information rather than a lot of listings, banners, search engines, etc. And, you’ll use considerably less of your color cartridge, too.


We don’t have a lot of graphics or pictures, because they take you extra time to download. So, we use an icon that we lovingly call “Lenny”, so you can access secondary information that may be of less importance to other visitors. At the start of many documents it is often used to give information or to provide a graphic pertinent to the issue. In the books by issue section, it calls up a copy of the book cover (example Men’s Lives) next to the book review. In the books by issue section under Cassettes: audio or Cassettes: video, a click will reveal the pertinent j-card cover. So, when you have the time, click on the “Lenny” icon. It reveals something that Lenny likes. Check it out!

“Today’s” Daily Thoughts

A click on “Lenny” icon or a click on “Today” on side banner will take you to our thoughts and issues for the day. At 12 mm, today ends and a new day begins. With it comes the opportunity to move backward, forward, or stay where you are in life. This section will also change, bringing you information and inspiration (depending on how you might look at it). Revisit to see what tomorrow has to offer. What a great way to start the day!


We post 22 weekly columns including Tom Blake – Middle-Age Relationships, Mark Brandenburg – Great Fathers, Armin Brott – A Father’s Guide, Ken Byers – Transition, Sandra L. Caron – Sex Talk, Otto & Susie Collins – Susie and Otto, David Copeland – How to Succeed with Women, Jed Diamond – Irritable Male Syndrome, Doc Love – Women Don’t Lie, Man Don’t Listen, Nancy Fagan – Expert Dating Advice, Tim Hartnett – Daddyman Speaks, Joe Kort – Gaydar, Ron Louis – How to Succeed with Women, Wendy McElroy – Wendy McElroy, Dennis W. Neder – Being a Man, Marty Nemko – Worklife, Carey Roberts – Socialism & Feminism, Perry Rose – Dating, Relationships or Sex; Glenn Sacks – His Side, Judith Sherven – The New Intimacy, Jim Sniechowski. – The New Intimacy, Don Steele – Don Steele; Bruce Van Horn – Yoga for Men and KC Wilson – On Gender Politics

We post 44 monthly columns including The Advice Diva – The Advice Diva, Reid Baer – A Man Overboard, Peter Alsop – Songs; Peter Baylies – At Home Dads, Ted Braude – BoysWork, Sandra Caron – Sex Talk; Layne & Paul Cutright – Powerful Partnerships, Ron DesMarais – Cavemen in the Kitchen, Barry Durdant-Hollamby – Creating Change, Irv Engel – The Real Deal; Warren Farrell – Men’s Issues, Leonard Felder – Wake Up or Break Up; Martin Friedman – Strong Man, Strong Marriage; Liz Halliday – In a Man’s World; Kim Garretson – MansGland, Lion Goodman – How to get Women to Love You; John Hershey – Blood, Phlegm & Bile: Parenting with Humor, Gary Hoeber – Soul Work, Paul Joannides – The Guide to Getting It On, Jack Kahn – NOMAS Boston; David Kundtz – David Kundtz, Bruce Linton – Dr. Dad, Robert N. Minor – Minor Details, Eli Newberger – Eli Newberger, Dan Millman – Way of the Peaceful Warrior, Linda Nielsen – Embracing Your Father, Kathy Noll – Bullies and Youth Violence, Trudy Schuett – Trudy Schuett; Carl Schutt – Circumcision; Hugo Schwyzer – A Pro-Feminist’s Response; George Simons – Bellicose Veins, Andy Smith – The Hard Hat Brotherhood; David Smith – Fighting Father Dave; Reena Sommer – Custody, David Steinberg – Comes Naturally, Steven Svoboda – Fatherhood, Activism and the Law, Michael Taylor – A New Conversation with Men; Michael Webb – Secrets of Blissful Relationships, Stuart Wilde – Stuart Wilde: Dr.Williams – Sex Health, and Words Can Heal plus a informational columns Health Tips, Numbers, Q&A, and Wuzup?! that we hope you will enjoy as well as a Surprise columnist each month. Others will be added to this list.

Events for Men in Your State

Menstuff® Events Calendar lists over 800 men’s events through the next 12 months. To find what’s happening in your state, go to the Calendar and click on the month you want to check out. State codes appear to the far left of the first line of each listing. If there is an event in the state this month, a click on the state code will bring up the first one. You will have to scroll down from there to see if there are other events in your state during that month. Or, use our search engine in the left sidebar. Type in the two-letter state code. It will bring up everything with the state code, including events and even your state representatives. Click on those months you’re interested in where it says “Men’s Events – (the month)”. When it brings up the month, click on the state code. Event listings are updated at least monthly. You can also find events by type and by title.

Buy This Book or Subscribe Here

As you can already tell, we don’t sell a lot of things. However, as a nonprofit organization, the purchase of books and products through our service helps continue our work to end men’s isolation. So, whenever you find a book you would like to purchase, click on the words “Buy this book” or the “Buy Now” icon. If the book you are interested in doesn’t have that hyperlink or if you would like to see other books on the issue that we might not be aware of, or you want to buy a book on a totally unrelated topic, click on the “” box on the side-bar. This financially benefits our work. The only other items we sell (bumper stickers, pamphlets and slide-guides) can be found in our Merchandise section.

To Contact Us

There are several important differences in ways to contact us. For general messages, use the Contact Us email at the bottom of the side bar. If you want to add a group, event, or other information to the site, click on “Feedback” on the side bar and go to the appropriate form. However, if you have a comment or want to suggest a change of address, web site or e-mail on the page you are looking at, go to the email address at the bottom of that page. With over 218 megabytes of information, this really helps us find the location relating to your comments and make the appropriate changes.


They are everywhere but are usually hanging on to the very end of a page. Some call them scratchings, which is Italian for graffiti. Evidence of snippets goes back to early Roman and Greek times. Ours don’t go back that far but we hope you will enjoy them anyway. Share your snippets with us at Snippets. We love original ones, but your favorites come in a close second.

Underconstruction. Where this symbol is used, we are still developing that sector and can used information, resources, and books on the issue.

You can make a difference!

Not only the Federal Government, but many corporations have reduced their charitable contributions in recent years. This means reduced services and in many cases, the elimination of services. Many men’s services, like this one, are run out of our homes. We foot the bill because of our commitment to men, communities, families, relationships, etc. To keep going, and in many cases just to survive, volunteers are needed. If you have a few minutes, hours, days, one-time or over a longer period of time, there is a place that can use you. We can use you help. You might also check out our “Resource” directory under the category that looks most aligned with where you have been helped in the past, or where you would like to help now. We are also proud to be part of VolunteerMatch, a national non-profit system that has listings for volunteers all over the country. You pick what suits you best. (They don’t have a category for “men” yet, and we’re working on them.) Below, you can search for opportunities that you can do from home, like the opportunities we have. And it also lists opportunities within a mile of your zip code, 6 miles, 20 miles, etc. What have you done lately?  It’s never to late to start!

For all of you who have received support from men, it’s time to give back. It’s time to commit to be there for those men who haven’t asked for help yet. For, if you don’t, not only may they not get the help they need, but there might not be anyone left if you need help again. Take this time to go through our Resource directory and find an organization that you could contribute time and/or money to. Or Volunteers. We all have opportunities, many that can be done from the comfort of your own home. Volunteer and contribute to men’s work while these important services still exist.

Bye for Now

Our web site is pretty clear when you are going to be leaving to visit another web site since we usually provide the complete URL and don’t make a habit of hiding it behind a title or burying it within our own URL. However, in some situations, we have used a subject title as the link. As we locate these situations within our site, you will see more of this icon. It simply means that by clicking on the accompanying hyperlink, you will be leaving our site for another site.


We are “” and “” We have no connection with “” or “”. We own “” and “” which both point to “”. Type carefully – we are “menstuff” followed by “.org”. We also manage “”, “”, “” (Prostate Cancer Awareness Week), and “” (Testicular Cancer Awareness Week). Thanks and happy surfing!

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Men represent 98% of firefighters, 96% of truck drivers, 96% of prison inmates, 96% of school superintendents, 96% of law enforcement officers who are killed (while only representing 89% of police and detectives), 93% of engineers (87% of new engineers), 91% of dentists (77% of new dentists), 91% of fishers, hunters, and trappers, 87% of persons arrested for offenses against family and children, 85% of doctors (69% of new doctors), and 78% farm workers (and 85% of migrant farm workers). Eighty-four percent of men think a father’s role in raising children is just as important as the mother’s. We are the majority of the homeless, unemployables, and addicts. And, we out-die women in all top fifteen major causes of death to give us a seven year shorter life span. Let’s all come out of isolation and start doing something about this!

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